Part 4

The ideal of that sexuality remains also as Havelock Ellis states it. As I have said several times, he divides the sexual act into the forepleasure and the act itself. The forepleasure is a summarizing of many of those things looked upon as infantile and perverse, but which, as part of the art of love, become means of endearment and arousal, and lead finally to the complete consummation.

It is well, even for those who have difficulty in the matter, to keep this ideal before them as something finally capable of attainment. For, while the various items of the forepleasure may become ends in themselves, and this unavoidably because of the lack of development or the person’s type, it should not be forgotten that things undeveloped should finally be developed, so that marriage may become more complete and love deeper.

NOTE

The reader who wants to pursue the matter further, would do well to read Havelock Ellis’s _Psychology of Sex_, particularly volume six, which contains the famous chapter on The Art of Love.

He may also gain much by reading Freud’s _General Introduction to Psycho-Analysis_.

Finally, if he is interested in going more deeply into the psychology of Jung, the problems of introvert vs. extravert, and the types, he is referred to Little Blue Book No. 978 (_The Psychology of Jung_), Little Blue Book No. 980 (_How I Psycho-Analyzed Myself_) and Little Blue Book No. 985 (_A Psycho-Analysis of America_).

Transcriber’s Note

Some inconsistencies in spelling, hyphenation, and punctuation have been retained.

This file uses _underscores_ to indicate italic text and =equals= to indicate bold text.

p. 53: changed “genuie” to “genuine” (a genuine readjustment)